Eternally Confused And Eager For Love Takes Us Inside The Conflicted Minds Of Urban Indian Men 

Ray is both endearing and annoying at once. He doesn’t want to hurt women, but still ends up making them feel unsafe. This contradiction highlights the problem with gender discourse today – men are given a long list of ‘Don’ts’ for their dealings with women. But in the absence of a list of ‘Dos’, many men find themselves lost and confused. 

Is He Emotionally Unavailable Or Unable To Express His Emotions?

Women often complain of men being emotionally unavailable and while this is true in some cases, in many cases, a man’s emotional unavailability is in fact, an inability to express his emotions. This is so common that there is a term for it – ‘normative male alexithymia.’ Coined by Ronald F. Levant of Nova Southeastern University, Normative Male Alexithymia, or NMA, refers to a man’s inability to put emotions into words. This stunting of emotional expression is a result of gender-stereotypical upbringing and socialisation. 

Phubbing Is Hurting More Than Your Relationships! 

The word ‘phubbing’ is made of two words – ‘phone’ and ‘snubbing’. Phubbing is when we snub someone we are sitting with in person in favour of the phone. It’s become so common to do this – at parties, at dinners, on date nights, while hanging out with friends and family, and even on Zoom calls – that we almost don’t question it.

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