The #MeToo movement brought conversation around consent to the fore. While that’s wonderful, we must avoid the trap of thinking that consent matters only under the sheets. While yes, with enthusiastic and ongoing yes is the only way to get frisky, consent goes far beyond sex.
Ray is both endearing and annoying at once. He doesn’t want to hurt women, but still ends up making them feel unsafe. This contradiction highlights the problem with gender discourse today – men are given a long list of ‘Don’ts’ for their dealings with women. But in the absence of a list of ‘Dos’, many men find themselves lost and confused.
If you love someone, you set them free. There is much truth to this adage. Love sets you free, it doesn’t bind you. But when a person’s happiness, his needs, and his life, and even his identity revolves around another person and he forgets all about his own needs and his own life, maybe it’s time to take a step back.
Going for couples counselling with the intention of ‘going back to the way things were’ may not be the best idea. While the past may have been a happy place for you, that doesn’t mean you can’t create a happy future that looks different.
For all practical purposes, such will-they-won’t-they couples in fiction tend to fall into rather toxic patterns. But Alexis and Ted manage to not only avoid that but end up elevating what such relationships could mean because that’s how perceptive the writing is on Schitt’s Creek.
Women often complain of men being emotionally unavailable and while this is true in some cases, in many cases, a man’s emotional unavailability is in fact, an inability to express his emotions. This is so common that there is a term for it – ‘normative male alexithymia.’ Coined by Ronald F. Levant of Nova Southeastern University, Normative Male Alexithymia, or NMA, refers to a man’s inability to put emotions into words. This stunting of emotional expression is a result of gender-stereotypical upbringing and socialisation.
The word ‘phubbing’ is made of two words – ‘phone’ and ‘snubbing’. Phubbing is when we snub someone we are sitting with in person in favour of the phone. It’s become so common to do this – at parties, at dinners, on date nights, while hanging out with friends and family, and even on Zoom calls – that we almost don’t question it.