Five Lessons Khaleesi Taught Me About Being A Strong Warrior Queen
Circa 2014: I was bedridden for about good two months due to a dislocated knee, when I found myself forced, due to circumstance and boredom, to start watching Game of Thrones. Too many people I knew had been watching it already, and I could see it soon becoming the mandate that people needed to meet to be part of conversations. Although I always steered away from violence, even in TV Shows, I thought it wouldn’t be fair to condemn the show without even trying to watch it once. So, knowing I had nothing better to do, I took out my laptop, put on the earphones, and started what would be the best thing that happened to me in a long long time.
I won’t lie... at first I didn’t understand a thing. The violence, the sex, the incest, the scheming, the planning, the plotting was all too much to handle, let alone make sense of. But for some odd reason I kept going. And now, five years later, I am still going, and it is hands down one of the best TV series I ever laid my eyes on. Especially since, even in that mystical, mythical and medieval setting, I could find that one character that I, as a woman, could relate to.
Daenerys Targaryen, first of her name, Queen of the Andals and the First Men, Protector of the Seven Kingdoms, Khaleesi of the Great Grass Sea, Breaker of Chains, Mother of Dragons, Lady of Dragonstone, and Queen of Meereen. Yes, all of that is just one woman - the Khaleesi, that became the inspiration I could hold on to like a little child holds his mother’s finger... tightly, and with hope.
Here’s what Khaleesi taught me about being a strong woman:
It doesn’t matter from where you start, as long as you have it in you to rise above and become what you’re meant to.
Even her journey, when it started, started as just Daenerys Stromborn, the sister of the mad and power hungry Viserys Targaryen, but as the show progressed, she became one of the most powerful characters, taking everything in her stride, and just not backing down.
Compassion and honest intentions will get you what even fear and force can’t.
Daenerys has always won the heart of people, and that is how she built her army. She did not take people as slaves, rather freed them of slavery, offered them hope and gave them a chance to be heard, with respect and compassion.
Believe in yourself.
Khaleesi had always been fed tales about her family’s history and somewhere deep within she knew that fire couldn’t burn her down if she was a real Targaryen. And so she sat in the fire, risking her own life, with her three dragon eggs in her hands, and one strong belief in her head that she’d survive it, and survive she did. She rose from the fire, unharmed and invincible, manifesting her own powers, and leading the biggest army the West had ever seen.
Own your femininity.
Being a woman neither stopped Daenerys from being a warrior and a mother, nor did it lessen her desire to claim the throne and be the queen. She never suppressed her womanhood to be part of this game of Thrones. Instead, she made use of it, to connect with other women, with mothers and the people, to prove that women are not lesser.
You don’t have to be perfect.
Even Daenerys had her share of failures, and made mistakes as she set out on the journey to claim what was hers. But the real power is not in winning every time, but losing with grace, learning from your mistakes, and getting back up in the game stronger than ever. Because as long as you are still running, the race is far from over.